THE RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS QUIZ
Which of the 64 Relationship Stances are you bringing to your relationships?
Take our Quiz to uncover the keys to understanding your relationship stance, your greatest gifts, and your life's themes. Plus you'll see which shadow pattern you tend to get caught in most. Take this 20-question quiz and get instant access to your Free Summary Profile.
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Take it on your own to learn more about yourself OR take it with a romantic partner, business colleague, family member, or friend to understand the relationship dynamics going on between you. You can retake this quiz anytime with the people you interact with most.
Discover your unique gifts & patterns
Gain personalized insights about your strengths and gifts while uncovering which of the 8 toxic cycles you get caught in most to help you understand yourself and the people you interact with most. Access a 50+ page profile and a 24 Lesson Step by Step Guide.
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Gain practical relationship skills for building stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. This Relationship Dynamics Profile analyzes 24 key areas, 8 relational gifts and 8 shadow patterns to help you learn how to be a better partner. Unlock your profile to get remedies and skills to help you.
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Take this Quiz and you'll get your FREE Relationship Dynamics Report and, learn more about how to unlock your full Profile (60+ pages) which includes a step by step 24-lesson course to help you learn about yourself, your loved ones and build the skills to create stronger, healthier, more lasting love.
WHO SHOULD TAKE THIS QUIZ?
ANYONE CAN TAKE THIS QUIZ AND IT'S MOST ACCURATE WHEN YOU FOCUS ON A PARTICULAR RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU'D LIKE TO PROFILE...
Romantic Partners
Business Colleagues
Family Members
Friends
WHAT YOU'LL DISCOVER WHEN YOU UNLOCK YOUR PROFILE
A Comprehensive Owner's Manual For Understanding Yourself & Others
WHICH OF THE 64 RELATIONSHIP STANCES ARE YOU? WHICH OF THE 8 GIFTS IS YOUR GREATEST STRENGTH?
Learn how your greatest relationship gifts positively impact the people you interact with and which of the 64 stances you tend to use most in your relationship. Feel caught in a loop having the same argument again and again? Are you wanting to find an exit strategy out of those patterns? This profile will tell you what you might be doing to predictable polarize others and also how you might be inspiring the people around you too.
There is a companion online course that comes along with your profile that provides a step-by step guide that can help point the way to healing that toxic cycle permanently.
DISCOVER YOUR SPECIFIC GIFTS, SHADOWS, & STANCE
Learn how your gift of positively impacts your most important relationships and how to communicate effectively with people who might not share your gift. Feel caught in a loop of ? This step-by step guide points the way to healing that toxic cycle permanently.
HOW CAN YOU IMPROVE THE WAY YOU COMMUNICATE & DECISION MAKE GIVEN YOUR UNIQUE STYLE AND THEIRS?
Discover which of the 4 different qualities 8 different styles make up your communication profile and get a detailed decision making profile to explore how your natural tendencies likely make some situations easy for you to navigate while others you might find more challenging.
Once you’ve learned your communication style, you can watch out for the common pitfalls and shadows that crop up for you and how to use your unique gifts to make sure communication and decision making with you is always clear, impactful, and effective.
EVOLVE THE WAY YOU COMMUNICATE & COLLABORATE
Learn about explicit, implicit, reactive, and repressive communication styles and how your natural tendencies make some situations easy for you to navigate and others more challenging. Once you’ve learned your communication style, you can watch out for the common pitfalls and use your unique gifts to make sure communication with you is always clear, impactful, and effective.
WHAT ARE YOUR UNCONSCIOUS PATTERNS? HOW DO YOU HANDLE STRESS?
How do you handle stress in your relationships? Learn which of the 8 ways people are conditioned to handle stress and how it shows up in your posture, gestures, arguments and emotions. Learn what you do to compensate and protect yourself physically and emotionally when this happens and how others tend to perceive you when you do.
Learn how you can regulate your nervous system, release stress, and restore yourself to a more resourced state so you can show up for your partner as your best self.
LEARN YOUR UNCONSCIOUS ENERGY PATTERNS
How do you handle stress in your relationships? Learn which of the 8 distinct ways we tend to become conditioned to handle these stresses and how they show up in your posture, gestures, patterns of tension, and which emotions tend to get repressed or expressed. Learn how you can regulate your nervous system, release stress, and restore yourself to a more resourced state.
WHAT CONFLICT PATTERNS ARE YOU GETTING CAUGHT IN? WHAT RESOLUTION STRATEGIES & SKILLS CAN HELP YOU NAVIGATE THAT BETTER?
Most conflicts never get resolved. The period of tension and upset may pass and apologies may be offered and even accepted, but unless the conflict is fully resolved, resentment often lives on. This profile will look at your top 2 goto strategies that you use when you are upset and in conflict.
We'll also look at how you tend to help resolve situations between yourself and others as we look at what comes naturally to you and also what might be a growth edge for you. If you upgrade to the course, you'll discover the 5 essential phases of conflict resolution and how your current conflict strategies might be polarizing your interactions in predictable ways. Get the key to developing the missing phases to permanently resolve your conflicts.
MAP YOUR CONFLICT AND RESOLUTION STYLES
Most conflicts never get resolve - the period of tension and upset may pass and apologies may be offered and even accepted, but unless the conflict is fully resolved, a pocket of resentment often lives on. We’ve identified 5 important stages of any successful conflict resolution process for it to fully resolve. Learn how your current conflict strategies might be polarizing your interactions in predictable ways and which of these stages you might develop to more permanently resolve your conflicts.
HOW CAN YOU BRING MORE ROMANCE & KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
You can take this with a family member, business colleague, or friend too but if you choose to profile a romantic partner (current or former), you'll unlock 6 qualities that are part of identifying your particular romantic profile.
Learn more about what kind of attraction strategies you tend to use and what natural skills you bring to your romantic relationships and also any shadow patterns that you might get caught in that could be causing you to either lose the spark or create unwanted friction for you and your partner. Learn the strengths and blindspots of your style to create more passion and attraction with your partner.
LEARN WHAT KIND OF LOVER YOU ARE
Learn more about what kind of attraction strategies you tend to use and what natural skills you bring to your romantic relationships and also any shadow patterns that you might get caught in that could be causing you to either lose the spark or create unwanted friction for you and your partner.
HOW CAN YOU PUT WHAT YOU ARE LEARNING INTO PRACTICE DAY TO DAY? GET 20+ LESSONS, PRACTICES & EXERCISES
If you decide to upgrade to receive our profile and the companion tsep by step course you’ll receive the most comprehensive relationship profile we've ever seen along. with the 24 lesson Mastering Your Relationship Dynamics Course that will help guide you step by step into understanding yourself and and whoever you profiled turning that knowledge into practice. Learn what will work best for your specific relationship.
24 LESSONS + 21 RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS PRACTICES
You’ll receive one of the most COMPREHENSIVE profiles ever created of the dynamics that are most active in your relationships right now. It’s been custom built for you, with detailed commentary on each section of your profile. Make 2024 your best relationship year yet! Not all are created equal. Learn what will work best for your specific relationship.
YOU'll ALSO LEARN DOZENS OF OTHER TENDENCIES AND SENSITIVITIES THAT SHAPE THE WAY YOU RELATE
Your upgraded profile includes a 24 Lesson course that will walk you through understanding your full profile step by step. Gain a deeper understanding of the relationship gifts you bring to your partner, to your decision-making and even your parenting along with identifying, your primary needs and even your biggest doubts and fears. You can't change what you don't understand.
AND DOZENS OF OTHER STYLES, TENDENCIES, AND SENSITIVITIES THAT SHAPE THE WAY YOU LOVE
Your upgraded profile includes a 24 Lesson course that will walk you through understanding your profile step by step. Gain a deeper understanding of the relationship gifts you bring to your partner, to your decision making and even to your parenting along with identifying, your primary, needs, the themes you tend to explore, and even your biggest doubts and fears.
ABOUT THE CREATORS OF THE RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC PROFILE
JENNIFER RUSSELL & BRYAN FRANKLIN
CO-FOUNDERS, RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC INSTITUTE
Over 30,000 paid coaching sessions and transformational programs over the last 20 years
Together Jennifer Russell and Bryan Franklin have done over 30,000 paid coaching sessions and have led 20+ years of impactful transformational courses, retreats, and programs incorporating the best of Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), the human potential movement, family systems, attachment theory, parts work, collaborative systems, evolutionary psychology, spiral dynamics, spiritual practices, and sacred theater. They’ve analyzed thousands of relationship fights and have developed a comprehensive Relationship Dynamics Profile and a unique Perfect Vision Conflict Resolution process that’s famous for rewriting relational patterns and permanently resolving conflicts.
Take this FREE Quiz to find out your #1 Relationship Stance, your greatest Gifts, your primary Shadow pattern and which Toxic Cycle you get caught in most.
COMPARISON TABLE
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Relationship Dynamics Description
Access To The Community: Discussions & Support
Your Relationship Stance: Which of the 64 are you?
Your Shadow Stance: Which of the 64 do you get caught in?
Your Results Summary: Get your Scores in 18 Categories
Explore The Primary Relationship Gift You Bring
Find Out Your Top Relationship Qualities & Strengths
See Your Shadow Qualities & The History Behind Them
Get Our Guide To How To Understand Your Results
The Ring Of Resolution: What are we fighting about?
Learn Which Shadow Patterns You Get Caught In
Explore Your Primary & Secondary Life’s Themes
Discover Whether Your Reference Is Internal vs Exteral
Learn Your 4 Tendencies: Your Values & What You Admire
Your 4 Sensitivities: What Side You Taken In Conflict
Explore Your Primary & Secondary Needs
Uncover Your Primary & Secondary Doubts & Fears
Explore Your Primary & Secondary Triggers
Discover Your Energetic Profile: It’s Gifts & Shadows
Analysis Of Your Communication Profile Gifts & Shadows
Analysis Of Your Decision Making & How You Collaborate
Discover Your Primary & Secondary Toxic Cycle Remedies
Learn How To Develop Better Communication
Understand Ways To Improve Your Decision Making
Understand How To Remedy Your Toxic Cycles
Discover Your Unique Resolution Strategy to End Conflict
Get A Set of 6 Personalized Relationship Skills To Develop
A 10-Chapter Owner’s Manual: How To Partner With You
24 Explainer Videos To Help You Understand Your Profile
A 60+ Chapter Personalized Audiobook: Listen On The Go
23 Practices & Practical Tools To UpgradeYour Relating
Special Discounts That MORE Than Pay For The Upgrade
Permanent Relationship Breakthrough Course
8xLive Interactive Calls with Bryan & Jennifer
Learn How to Permanent Resolve Your Conflicts
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SUMMARY
PAID PROFILE & COURSE
PERMANENT
BREAKTHROUGH
ACCESS THE COMMUNITY & GET SUPPORTED
In The Relationship Dynamics Community
Get (and give) support with a vibrant network of people who are committed to have extraordinary relationships
Learn more about yourself and your partner by connecting with others with similar gifts & shadows
Get support and new perspectives on a challenge or sticking point
Connect with the kinds of people you’d most want to share a transformational journey
YOUR RELATIONSHIP STANCE: WHICH OF THE 64 ARE YOU?
We often call the patterned ways we respond that can be repeated enough that they form aspects of our personality a ‘Relationship Stance’. These stances describe how the body, beliefs & our behaviors adapt to what’s around us.
There are 8 primary relational gifts that combine to form these 64 stances (The Visionary, The Zen Master, The Guardian, The Empath, The Free Spirit, The Devotee, The Provocateur, & The Collaborator)
The 64 Relationship Stances
YOUR SHADOW STANCE: WHICH DO YOU GET CAUGHT IN MOST?
We often call the patterned ways we respond that can be repeated enough that they form aspects of our personality a ‘Relationship Stance’. These stances describe how the body, beliefs & our behaviors adapt to what’s around us.
There are 8 primary relational shadows that combine to form these 64 shadow stances (The Tyrant, The Denier, The Prosecutor, The Pleaser, The Narcissist, The Beggar, The Addict, The Martyr)
The 64 Shadow Stances
RESULTS SUMMARY: YOUR TOP RANKINGS, CHARTS & SCORES
In The Profile (PDF) & Companion Course...
Your Results summary will show you your rankings and scores in over 18 different categories including:
Rankings of Your 8 Relationship Gifts & 8 Shadows
Your Scores For The 8 Communication & Decision Making Qualities, 6 Romantic Qualities & Your Energetic Profile
Your Scores For The 4 Tendencies and 4 Sensitivities
Your 2 Life Themes & Your Internal vs External Reference
Your Primary & Secondary Toxic Cycle & Their Remedies* &
What your Conflict & Resolution Strategies* are
Which 2 Primary Needs, Triggers, Biggest Fears & Doubts
YOUR SHADOW QUALITIES: REWRITING YOUR PRIMARY PATTERNS
In The Profile (PDF) & Companion Course...
There is an opportunity to embrace your darker side and illuminate what might be responsible for repeating some undesirable patterns.
Uncover both primary and secondary shadow qualities that might emerge when you feel threatened or disconnected
Learn to identify the signs that you are slipping into your shadow patterns and the childhood history at play that tends to form this pattern
Gain insights on how these shadows influence your reactions and how others perceive you during challenging times.Use this newfound knowledge to navigate challenges, improve self-awareness, and enhance the quality of your connections with others
PRIMARY GIFTS: WHICH OF THE 8 ARE YOUR GREATEST STRENGTH
In The Profile (PDF) & Companion Course...
Learn about your primary relationship gifts and strengths that are vital to creating a healthy long lasting relationship.
Learn about the core essence of this gift and how this gift relates to the deepest impulses, desires, & values you hold
Recognize what’s easy for you that might be harder for others, which can show you what others find is special about being in a relationship with you
In addition, access your secondary gift and a mind map of it’s qualities so you can see how these two blend together to form a fuller picture of what people tend to love and admire most about you
THE PRIMARY & SECONDARY RELATIONSHIP QUALITIES YOU BRING
In The Profile (PDF) & Companion Course...
See a mind map of both your primary and secondary qualities that are also likely strengths you bring to your relationship.
Learn how you are positively impacting the people you interact with and what they tend to see in you
Uncover the primary and secondary qualities that might emerge when you are safe, secure and the most yourself
If you take this profile with someone else, have them share theirs with you so you can see which
INTRODUCTIONS & LEARN HOW TO READ YOUR RESULTS
The results you receive are not intended to be used as a ‘Typing’ system. Many typing systems describe our identity in a more fixed and one dimensional way. It may be tempting to think of the results in this report as meaning something about you that is unchangeable. We believe that the best way to enter into an evolutionary relationship is to realize that our identities and the strategies and stances we most often take are actually much more moldable, flexible and able to evolve than they may appear. This profile is meant to give you a window into how you are predominantly showing up in your relationships right now. It is a current snapshot of the most prevalent relational dynamics that are present.
Our goal in creating this body of work is to raise our collective ‘Relational Quotient’ (RQ) so that we are all more able to create and maintain conscious healthy relationships ongoingly.
RELATIONAL QUOTIENT (RQ)
The measure of the consciousness and health of a relationship, and a person’s ability to create and maintain health in their relationships.
RING OF RESOLUTION: WHAT ARE WE REALLY FIGHTING ABOUT?
It’s common knowledge that the source of conflict in love relationships is rarely the “surface issue,” but what are we really fighting about?
After studying thousands of relationships we discovered that, at the deepest level, there are actually a finite number of fights we are having. Even though we are each complex and unique, the underlying dynamics that are keeping us at odds with each other can be categorized into one of only 8 unique conflicts.
We call these conflicts Toxic Cycles because when each person’s behavior is caught up in one of these cycles, they tend to polarize one another into a predictable and directly oppositional position, unwittingly inviting others to continue the cycle rather than resolve it. Just like positively and negatively charged magnets, the presence of a strong charge on one side will attract and amplify a strong charge on the opposite side. Discover the 8 conflicts that are at the root of nearly all relational conflict.